Will Love Grow In Time?

When you read that question above, what do you think? recently I am doing my survey to find out, is it true that love can grow in time? Even if you married someone that you did not love, will it be okay in the future because you think you can learn to love that man or woman in the end?

I found some cases with people who married without love, Now the marriage is almost 5 years old and some couples already had a child. They told me that they were not happy, some of them said they felt suffering with this situation and wish they had a second chance to go back in time that they decided to accept that marriage and said NO.

But why, what exactly happens? What makes them brave enough to gamble with their love and feelings? It is like “Ok, let’s try and see, maybe later I can love you, yeah who knows, at least i can learn to love you, but if its not, hmmm we will see what we can do later”

There are so many reasons that makes people feel trapped when they decide to get married even there’s no love in their hearts. Some things that i found out are: Read the rest of this entry »

The Power Of Love

Story About A Woman Who Try To Kill Her Mother In Law

A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got married & went to live with her husband and mother in law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn’t get along with her mother in law at all. Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother in law habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.Days passed, and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li’s poor husband!.

Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law’s bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it! Li-Li went to see her father’s good friend, Read the rest of this entry »

What Not To Do When We Argue?

For most people, the way they argue when the problem comes is not always healthy. Besides yelling, bring up irrelevant things or start to say extreme, hurtful words with the purpose to hurt the other person.

And we know the result of all these things just builds up for the next fight.

Positive arguing, I think that what we all want to know how to do it, well its not easy like we think compare the reality that we have to face, but at least we wan to try the healthy argument to build the healthy relationship, Here are the 2 important things that we need to learn.

1. Clear out any misunderstanding you and your partner might have
   

   Tell what you think and what you feel. For example when you argue and your lover says: I think that you really selfish. When that happens, don’t try to answer it with “how about you, what is the good thing about you?” try to ask calmly “why do you feel like that?” is there something I did that make you feel like that?

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