The Danger of Rejection

This article is not about rejection on a date or rejection for a job application, but for people who are in a long lasting relationship.

Have you ever been rejected? Hurts doesn’t it? Yeah it really hurts when it happens, but most are taking it far to lightly. A simple rejection can destroy all trust built up between you and it doesn’t matter how big your wallet is or how big your heart is. Let me tell you a story:

I have been rejected numerous times, but for me, it’s a part of life. Some things works and some things don’t. I get over it pretty quickly. This is important, people are different. When I have rejected someone I love and that person really feels the betrayal, I am quite shocked at first, but then I realize the major mistake I have made. A lot of trust that I have built up could be gone in an instant. That is the danger and power of rejection. Read the rest of this entry »

Happy Valentine 2010!

Happy Valentine from us to you.

Wishing you all the best in life and love.

Enjoy this love song from Marc Anthony – My Baby You.

Will Love Grow In Time?

When you read that question above, what do you think? recently I am doing my survey to find out, is it true that love can grow in time? Even if you married someone that you did not love, will it be okay in the future because you think you can learn to love that man or woman in the end?

I found some cases with people who married without love, Now the marriage is almost 5 years old and some couples already had a child. They told me that they were not happy, some of them said they felt suffering with this situation and wish they had a second chance to go back in time that they decided to accept that marriage and said NO.

But why, what exactly happens? What makes them brave enough to gamble with their love and feelings? It is like “Ok, let’s try and see, maybe later I can love you, yeah who knows, at least i can learn to love you, but if its not, hmmm we will see what we can do later”

There are so many reasons that makes people feel trapped when they decide to get married even there’s no love in their hearts. Some things that i found out are: Read the rest of this entry »

Video Inspirational Of The Week – For Whom Do We Live

Another day, another week. Realized or not, we consumed our life time day by day. It become shorter in every minutes. The question are ; Had we found the meaning of our life? Had we love enough?

Remember, we never know when or how we will leave this world. When that thought came to my mind this morning, i told to my self that i don´t wan to have any regrets. I want to spend my whole life time for people that i love, i want to share my happiness with them. I wan to love more, i wan to giving more.

Hope all people that watch this video can find the true meaning of our life  and find the answer, for whom do we live?

Have a wonderful day. Keep smile and love.

VIDEO INSPIRATIONAL OF THE WEEK

For whom do we live video is a touching commercial ads from insurance company in Thailand.

Love Will Lead You Back

Hi all,
Very glad to write again after busy months to prepare all things that i need to follow my lovely man to his country. Yup.. i leave my country to be with him. Yes, its a bit sad to leave my family, friends and things that i love in Jakarta, the city that i live for 28 years my life.

So after almost 22 hours duration flew from Jakarta to Tromsø and transit in 3 places, Singapore, Frankfurt and Oslo, finally i landed in city where my husband born and live. I still remember when i was out from the plane and walk to the baggage claimed. I saw a man, the one that always full my mind, my dream and my heart, a man who for almost one year separated from me physically, now in front of me, open his arms for me and hold me tight.. oh God, it´s so good can kiss and hug him again.

And now, here i am, from the busy and crowded place in Jakarta, the capital city of Indonesia, move to quite and peace place in Tromsø, Norway. So many things to adapt. different taste of food, cold weather, unfamiliar language and culture, but the hardest part is waiting until my permanent resident to be approved. It´s so boring, because in that waiting period, I´m not allowed to work, to take norwegian languange course, or even to travel outside Norway, hffff….I think i really need activities to kill my time.  I mean what can be worst than that? at least i have more time now to do my writing hobbies and the best part is I´m here, live together with my husband as a normal husband and wife life. (sounds like our libefore bit unnormal ;p). I really happy because of that and i mean it. i know there will be so much things that i need to face in the future, but i´m not affraid, i have him now beside me who always suport and believe me. Read the rest of this entry »

Family Is A Great Choice

In life we get many so many choices it’s overwhelming. You get to choose what to eat for breakfast, what shoes to buy and what movie to watch. Family… did you choose to get a family? My family is just starting. Of course I have a mother and a father, but I am talking about a young family that recently started. You can’t chose your birth family, but you can chose the family you create yourself and that’s what I did.

When I was 20 years old, I never thought about having a family on my own. Even when I was 25 I didn’t feel that it was a necessary thing, it was something I could do without. I thought about one of my uncle who never had a family, never had a wife, never had children. I said to myself that he’s doing alright, he has a lot of money because he can spend it all on himself. It’s a selfish life, but it didn’t seem so bad. Read the rest of this entry »

The Beautiful Imperfections That Make A Relationship Perfect

Hi, How are you all today? I really hope that we can feel and share the love that we had to others…

This morning I woke up and turn on my computer, its so excited when I found the very beautiful video about relationship. its touching my heart, giving me a new lesson, a new perception about the meaning of imperfections that makes something perfect.

Its remind me, when how easily  I am to get angry before because small things that my husband did. I’m typically of perfectionist woman, who wan everything looks perfect in my eyes, until I realize, my husband without his imperfection was not my husband, I love him all the way he is and that’s makes him perfect to me. Right now my husband live separately from me, the condition makes us has to separated thousands kilometers. When I was thinking, I surprised how I miss all his imperfection parts, it makes me laugh, its makes me remember him with love and joy.

Its so good to know that we can always find the positive side inside every kind of condition and situation if we wan. The matter is how you wan to see it? how you wan to treat it? and what will you choose, to see imperfection from people we love and make it as a problem or you wan to see all their imperfections to makes your relationship perfect?

hope after watch this video, we can see the beautiful imperfections that make a relationship perfect .

Have a lovely day, thanks for all people who support us and always leave comments in this site, its really means to us, thank you ^_^

AND YES WE CALLED IT – THE INSPIRATIONAL VIDEO OF THE WEEK

“The Beautiful Imperfections That Make A Relationship Perfect”

“Funeral” is a new TV commerical launched by the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS) which looks at relationships in a different light, through a woman at her husband’s funeral. Ultimately, the TVC celebrates the beautiful imperfections that make a relationship perfect. This is fresh off MCYS latest Viewers’ Choice 2008 win for last year’s Family TVC which promotes the importance and value of family bonding.

TOP 10 ESSENTIAL VALENTINE’S GIFTS

Feel confused what to give for your special person in this special day?  We try to help you with ten essential things that you can give for him or her. Price doesn’t matter because Valentine’s day is not about expensive gifts, but it’s about your ability to share your feelings about love especially for those who stand beside for our whole life. Indulge in these top 10 valentine essentials to show your deepest love and affection.

Here it is TOP 10 ESSENTIAL VALENTINE’S GIFT

1. For Her: Flowers

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THE HISTORY OF VALENTINE’S DAY

Where does the Valentine tradition comes from? The history of valentine still has a connection with Christian people in the ancient Rome, 3rd century. Roman people always celebrate huge party on February 15th called Lupercalia which had a purpose to serve a Roman God, Lupercus who protect people from bad wolves. One of the festival traditions is when the young man has a chance to say the name of the woman who they like to become his girlfriend.

For the Valentine’s Day itself, the legend tells about a Roman priest named Valentine who blessed the marriage of many younger soldiers even the king of Rome Claudius II not allowed that because he worried that the soldiers won’t leave their wife to fight for their country. The king executed Valentine because of what he did on February 14th, the night before Lupercalia festival.

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17 Resolutions For Marriage Couple

January is pass and February will come soon, its almost a month, we spend time in this 2009. What did you do in your day? are you planned to make a several project with your couple? or you  wan to solve the problem that still bothering you from last year? or maybe you think to change all the routine and trying the new way to refresh relationship?

The beginning of year is a great momentum to make a change. This is the time of year that many people get those old familiar urges to make a resolution to makes the difference things in their lives, to do better, to be better, to love more, to get out of debt and to plan for the future.

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