What Not To Do When We Argue?
Posted by Tillnes on
September 22, 2008
For most people, the way they argue when the problem comes is not always healthy. Besides yelling, bring up irrelevant things or start to say extreme, hurtful words with the purpose to hurt the other person.
And we know the result of all these things just builds up for the next fight.
Positive arguing, I think that what we all want to know how to do it, well its not easy like we think compare the reality that we have to face, but at least we wan to try the healthy argument to build the healthy relationship, Here are the 2 important things that we need to learn.
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Clear out any misunderstanding you and your partner might have
Tell what you think and what you feel. For example when you argue and your lover says: I think that you really selfish. When that happens, don’t try to answer it with “how about you, what is the good thing about you?” try to ask calmly “why do you feel like that?” is there something I did that make you feel like that?
The Recipe Of Happy Marriage
Posted by Tillnes on
August 27, 2008
This time i wan to talk about recipe. why recipe? Am i talking about food here? No, I’m not, even i said the same Principe with cooking and make delicious food but what i wan talk here is about the Marriage life.
Maybe you feel confused, what is the connection between cooking and marriage?
Okay, let me explain. What you need when you cook? A recipe, yeah that’s right, but what exactly the meaning of recipes? In some source i found (i looking for simple meaning). A recipe is a set of instructions that show how to prepare or make something. Hmmm, instruction, prepare, make something. For me, its sounds same like a marriage life. There’s some instruction that you have to follow, to prepare, to make a purpose, a happy marriage life.
