Love Trouble From The Past

Andrew G. Marshall, the author of “I love you, but I’m not IN love with you: Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship” says in that book that 80% of what we argue about in our relationships stems from our childhood, our past and only 20% are related to the ongoing relationship. That is quite an interesting and eye opening fact, but it’s also something that isn’t so surprising when you think of it. Think of your life, everything you ever did and thought about. Simply the way you have become the person you are today, how does it all add up? More importantly, how can you let go of your past mistakes and that of your partner?

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Anger Projection

When you are angry at someone, have you ever thought if you are really angry at that person or angry because of something else? It’s called anger projection and it happens like this. Something you love, like an object of affection, is broken for some reason. Disappointed and hurt, you attack the person you love the most. It is more common than you think, and it happens in every relationship. It will be very damaging if it keeps happening, and neither of you understand the reason why.

Let me give you a few examples:

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