Unconditional Love

Have you love someone unconditional? lets start from now…

5 years my marriage time with Ellen is a hardest time in my life. Everyday I feel we’re not match and connect to each other.

We fighting because the small things, because Ellen so slow open the gate for me in the time I came home, because he bought table corner in our family room without discussed it first with me which is for me its just spend money for useless thing.

Today, August 27 is Ellen birthday, we fought this morning because Ellen wake me up so late, I’m so upset and not said happy birthday to her until now. Time is 10 o’clock in the night, I clean my working table and going home. Its raining hard, even its almost midnight but street in this city Read the rest of this entry »

What Not To Do When We Argue?

For most people, the way they argue when the problem comes is not always healthy. Besides yelling, bring up irrelevant things or start to say extreme, hurtful words with the purpose to hurt the other person.

And we know the result of all these things just builds up for the next fight.

Positive arguing, I think that what we all want to know how to do it, well its not easy like we think compare the reality that we have to face, but at least we wan to try the healthy argument to build the healthy relationship, Here are the 2 important things that we need to learn.

1. Clear out any misunderstanding you and your partner might have
   

   Tell what you think and what you feel. For example when you argue and your lover says: I think that you really selfish. When that happens, don’t try to answer it with “how about you, what is the good thing about you?” try to ask calmly “why do you feel like that?” is there something I did that make you feel like that?

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