What Not To Do When We Argue?

For most people, the way they argue when the problem comes is not always healthy. Besides yelling, bring up irrelevant things or start to say extreme, hurtful words with the purpose to hurt the other person.

And we know the result of all these things just builds up for the next fight.

Positive arguing, I think that what we all want to know how to do it, well its not easy like we think compare the reality that we have to face, but at least we wan to try the healthy argument to build the healthy relationship, Here are the 2 important things that we need to learn.

1. Clear out any misunderstanding you and your partner might have
   

   Tell what you think and what you feel. For example when you argue and your lover says: I think that you really selfish. When that happens, don’t try to answer it with “how about you, what is the good thing about you?” try to ask calmly “why do you feel like that?” is there something I did that make you feel like that?

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Love Movie Review: The Notebook

This movie from 2004 is one of the most powerful love movies I have ever seen and it’s called The Notebook. It’s based on a book by Nicholas Sparks that he wrote in 1996. The story is set in 1932 and two teenagers fall in love, they spend an amazing summer together in a small American town. The main characters Allie and Noah are separated however because Noah has to go to war. He sends her a letter every day, but Allie’s mother hide’s the letters. Allie is waiting for his letters for years, but they never come. She finally lets go decides to get engaged to Lon. He comes back from the war and finds out the love of his life is getting married to someone else. He decides to restore his dad’s old house to the dream house Allie always wanted. It’s in the paper and Allie, still not forgotten about Noah, decides to visit him, but will she choose Noah or Lon?

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