Does Cheating Mean That You Don’t Love Your Partner?

This is part 4 of the TLG Cheating Myths series. Previous parts: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3.

Check out the previous part in the series where I answered the myth if cheating is all about sex. Read about it here. In part 4, which is the one you are reading, I will talk about the myth that cheating means that you don’t love your partner. If you put this statement out there, I’m sure most of you will agree with this: If you love your partner, you will not cheat on him/her. It all sounds very logical to me which I am sure it does to you. Love is about caring for you partner, and above all, never hurt your partner intentionally, because that is love, not hate. I will draw the conclusion that cheating is not done by accident as you can’t accidentally have sex with someone. I also think most people who cheat will know that they will hurt their partner immensely if he or she finds out. It’s true that the cheaters do feel some kind of remorse after the deed is done, but they had every possibility to end it before it happened.

In the part 3 we talked about how it’s not all about sex, but I am going to counter that argument for the sake of this article. We did conclude that it’s not all about sex, and that still holds true. When cheating occurs and the cheater still loves their partner, there is usually one thing that allows them to take the jump. What could that reason be? Sex of course! The reason certain people who cheat can still love their partner is that they can separate sex and love in such a distinct matter. For them it’s almost like it’s two completely different things and they have nothing to do with each other. This is an important distinction and could be an article in itself because it’s certainly debatable. I hold the conviction that the one does not exclude the other, although there is enough evidence that people can have sex for the sake of sex without love being involved. If you turn it around, then you can also say that if you truly love someone, sex is an important part of that love, and no one can escape that, so it’s no excuse for cheating.

I believe that there are certain people whose boundaries have no limitations and it makes them able to cheat in such an easy manner. It could be genetics, it could be society, there could be a lot of reasons, but whatever it is, cheating is going on and a lot of people who cheat still love their partner very much. For a person with a stern principle that cheating is wrong for all the reasons in the world, it must be hard to fathom that cheaters still love their partner, but it is the cold hard facts.

To answer the myth: It’s definitely a possibility that the cheaters still love their partners very much.

In part 5 we will answer the question: Is sex with an ex not considered cheating? Stay tuned!