The Danger of Rejection

This article is not about rejection on a date or rejection for a job application, but for people who are in a long lasting relationship.

Have you ever been rejected? Hurts doesn’t it? Yeah it really hurts when it happens, but most are taking it far to lightly. A simple rejection can destroy all trust built up between you and it doesn’t matter how big your wallet is or how big your heart is. Let me tell you a story:

I have been rejected numerous times, but for me, it’s a part of life. Some things works and some things don’t. I get over it pretty quickly. This is important, people are different. When I have rejected someone I love and that person really feels the betrayal, I am quite shocked at first, but then I realize the major mistake I have made. A lot of trust that I have built up could be gone in an instant. That is the danger and power of rejection. Click to continue reading »

The Best Valentine Love Songs From The Movies

Love, movies, love and movies. They go well together don’t they? From cheesy pickup lines to epic love.  I love a great love story and these 15 songs that I have selected for this year’s valentine special.

I dedicate these gifts of love to my wonderful wife Kei and to all the love out there. Enjoy! Click to continue reading »

Happy Valentine 2010!

Happy Valentine from us to you.

Wishing you all the best in life and love.

Enjoy this love song from Marc Anthony – My Baby You.

Laughing: The Recipe For A Happy Relationship

Why do we laugh, or more importantly how do we laugh? We laugh when we are having fun, and fun, ladies and gentlemen is where we all want to be in a relationship. Just because you have 7 children and up to your neck in bills and stress doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t have fun. The problem is that we can’t see past the seriousness of our own life. Yes life is a serious matter, but the trivialities of life have a tendency to keep you trapped inside an endless loop of seriousness.

Laughing has been a proven medicine for centuries and like the saying goes: You laugh, you live longer. I want to change it to: You laugh, you love longer. Me and my wife are 32 and 28, but sometimes we act like we are 15. We joke around and laugh with each other a lot and I wonder if we’re the only ones doing that. The answer is that we aren’t. I observe other people and their relationship and the ones that are going well are usually filled with laughter. The ones that are miserable look that way… miserable. Laugh a little! Live a little! How do you keep it light and funny in your relationship? Click to continue reading »

Will Love Grow In Time?

When you read that question above, what do you think? recently I am doing my survey to find out, is it true that love can grow in time? Even if you married someone that you did not love, will it be okay in the future because you think you can learn to love that man or woman in the end?

I found some cases with people who married without love, Now the marriage is almost 5 years old and some couples already had a child. They told me that they were not happy, some of them said they felt suffering with this situation and wish they had a second chance to go back in time that they decided to accept that marriage and said NO.

But why, what exactly happens? What makes them brave enough to gamble with their love and feelings? It is like “Ok, let’s try and see, maybe later I can love you, yeah who knows, at least i can learn to love you, but if its not, hmmm we will see what we can do later”

There are so many reasons that makes people feel trapped when they decide to get married even there’s no love in their hearts. Some things that i found out are: Click to continue reading »

Jealousy Kills

I recently read in a Welsh newspaper about a man, Brian Lewis, is charged with murder of his wife Hayley Jones. The reason? She flirted on Facebook (allegedly). Seriously, is this what the world has come to? Apparently she was chatting up men on Facebook and the father of four strangled her to death. The stresser in this situation was that she put her status to “single”

This is not the only case of net jealousy that ends badly, but it’s a grim example. There’s obviously a lot more to it than the newspapers say, but as sick as it is, I can see it happen. I know someone who has a husband that flirts online and when he got caught he simply said: “Hey, it’s just the internet, it’s not real!” Well excuse me, but the emotions it stirs is real, very real. Some people are more jealous than others, and as proven here, it can end in murder.

Anyway, this was just a rant from your normally patient patron. Keep it safe kids!

Your Dream Is My Dream, Let’s Make It Together

When you love someone, you hope that you can have the one that you love completely. Their  happiness is your happiness. When they cry, you crying together. It feels so good become a part of your beloved one life, because you have someone to share every moment and emotion in this life.

But how about sharing dreams? have you ever thought about sharing dreams together too? you share your hopes, your goals, and in the same time you wan’t them to do the same thing to you. Having dreams is very important for me, i can see my future in every dream that i have, my goal, my purpose  and it makes my life meaningful.

When i got married, it doesn’t mean that i stop my dreams. luckily i have a husband who always support me and believe in me.  And i think i’m a greedy wife, I not only try to fulfill my dream, I also  try to fulfill my husband dreams too. making his dreams become mine.

One of his biggest dreams is to become an author. he wants to see his book that he wrote in the book store, read by many people and can share inspiration to others through it. And yes he already wrote his draft in that time. the problem is he never move to the next step, to finish it and then publish the book. And i said to my self, “Hei, why not do some thing, why not make it come true?  you can do it, don’t you wan to see your husband happy and proud when he finally get what he dreaming of?” Click to continue reading »

Video Inspirational Of The Week – For Whom Do We Live

Another day, another week. Realized or not, we consumed our life time day by day. It become shorter in every minutes. The question are ; Had we found the meaning of our life? Had we love enough?

Remember, we never know when or how we will leave this world. When that thought came to my mind this morning, i told to my self that i don´t wan to have any regrets. I want to spend my whole life time for people that i love, i want to share my happiness with them. I wan to love more, i wan to giving more.

Hope all people that watch this video can find the true meaning of our life  and find the answer, for whom do we live?

Have a wonderful day. Keep smile and love.

VIDEO INSPIRATIONAL OF THE WEEK

For whom do we live video is a touching commercial ads from insurance company in Thailand.

Love Will Lead You Back

Hi all,
Very glad to write again after busy months to prepare all things that i need to follow my lovely man to his country. Yup.. i leave my country to be with him. Yes, its a bit sad to leave my family, friends and things that i love in Jakarta, the city that i live for 28 years my life.

So after almost 22 hours duration flew from Jakarta to Tromsø and transit in 3 places, Singapore, Frankfurt and Oslo, finally i landed in city where my husband born and live. I still remember when i was out from the plane and walk to the baggage claimed. I saw a man, the one that always full my mind, my dream and my heart, a man who for almost one year separated from me physically, now in front of me, open his arms for me and hold me tight.. oh God, it´s so good can kiss and hug him again.

And now, here i am, from the busy and crowded place in Jakarta, the capital city of Indonesia, move to quite and peace place in Tromsø, Norway. So many things to adapt. different taste of food, cold weather, unfamiliar language and culture, but the hardest part is waiting until my permanent resident to be approved. It´s so boring, because in that waiting period, I´m not allowed to work, to take norwegian languange course, or even to travel outside Norway, hffff….I think i really need activities to kill my time.  I mean what can be worst than that? at least i have more time now to do my writing hobbies and the best part is I´m here, live together with my husband as a normal husband and wife life. (sounds like our libefore bit unnormal ;p). I really happy because of that and i mean it. i know there will be so much things that i need to face in the future, but i´m not affraid, i have him now beside me who always suport and believe me. Click to continue reading »

Family Is A Great Choice

In life we get many so many choices it’s overwhelming. You get to choose what to eat for breakfast, what shoes to buy and what movie to watch. Family… did you choose to get a family? My family is just starting. Of course I have a mother and a father, but I am talking about a young family that recently started. You can’t chose your birth family, but you can chose the family you create yourself and that’s what I did.

When I was 20 years old, I never thought about having a family on my own. Even when I was 25 I didn’t feel that it was a necessary thing, it was something I could do without. I thought about one of my uncle who never had a family, never had a wife, never had children. I said to myself that he’s doing alright, he has a lot of money because he can spend it all on himself. It’s a selfish life, but it didn’t seem so bad. Click to continue reading »